Wednesday 18 December 2013

QUICK TIPS, EASY WAYS, SIMPLE STEPS? In life development there's no such thing!


I write a blog relating to issues I come across on a regular basis: decision making; obstacles to clear thinking and focus; self confidence; workplace stress; early depression among executives, and so on. Just recently a coaching website very kindly agreed to published one of my missives with the condition that they could affect minor alterations to fit in with their style and theme. I willingly agreed and thought no more of it until one of my regularly readers brought my attention to the title of the piece which had been edited to begin with the words ‘Five Easy Ways To……’
  
‘Five Easy Ways’, ‘Ten Quick Tips’, ‘Seven simple steps’, are all anathema to me and unfortunately do my profession, at best, a huge disservice. Before proceeding I should say that the website concerned reacted promptly when I pointed out my feelings and they quickly changed the title to one I could agree with.

Blogging by its nature cannot explore a topic in any depth. It is there to promote interest in a given subject and to provoke the reader to ask questions of themselves and to challenge some of their perspectives. These mini articles of 300-500 words, however, may offer insights and illustrate behavioural triggers that can help people to begin to understand how life management and/or change may be brought about, but that is all. In our social media centric age we seek snippets of information, fast solutions, and ‘drive-thru’ concepts – but in my profession, to offer people anything other than complete reality is, to put it mildly, profoundly misleading.


There is no reason that the universe should be designed for our convenience.

John D Barrow (British cosmologist)

Our social conditioning began when we were small children so we have decades worth of beliefs, of knowledge, of family and social norms – some very good, some we are better off without  – to balance. In my experience there is no such thing as a quick fix when it comes to addressing how we see and think about our world.

When discussing managing our businesses or our lives, it takes hard work, clarity, focus, planning and time. With these factors in place we can achieve anything we set our minds to. Straightforward it may be – but simple it aint.

Alan Keyse is a fully qualified Business and Life Coach who now applies his 30 years of experience as a sales executive to coaching Emotional Intelligence to business leaders, executives, managers and their staff either in one-to-one sessions, in groups, or speaking to larger audiences. 

Alan Keyse
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Friday 13 December 2013

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE - A Practical Introduction

This event and the edited video was arranged by the 'Interesting Talks' Meetup group, run by Matt Kendall, and took place in Piccadilly, London in October 2013.




The idea behind this workshop was to introduce, to a mixed audience, the theory of Emotional Intelligence using Daniel Goleman's model as the basis for discussion.

As you will see, the main themes of the discussion centred around: 

THE THEORY OF EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

  • The five domains of EI 
  • The five key skills
  • The personal and group benefits of EI


NEGATIVITY

  • Group activity: anxiety & negativity triggers
  • The potency
  • Identifying the symptoms
  • Taking action


POSITIVITY

  • Filling the void left by negativity
  • The power of realistic positivity (Positive Truth)
  • Group activity: The 'positive truth' list


I shall be holding another short workshop in central London early on 2014 and will blog the details in due course.



Alan Keyse is a fully qualified Business and Life Coach who now applies his 30 years of experience as a sales executive to coaching Emotional Intelligence to business leaders, executives, managers and their staff either in one-to-one sessions, in groups, or speaking to larger audiences. 

Alan Keyse

Monday 2 December 2013

COMPASSION - A Workshop

Be kind, for everyone you meet 
is fighting a hard battle 
Philo, Alexandria, 1st Century

The workshop will be split in to two sessions on Saturday 7 June 2014 and will be part of the 'Health Getaways Normandy Weekend' retreat being held in Normandy from 6-8 June 2014. The cost of the workshop will be included in the price of the two day retreat. For details of costs and accommodation, plus a full itinerary on request, please email Health Getaways or email me directly and I shall be happy to supply you with all the information you need. 

It is not difficult to offer simple kindness and show compassion when things are going well – we can all do that. The challenge is to be able to share such acts and emotions when we are having a difficult day, or perhaps during a longer period of burden, the likes of which we all have to experience during our lives. 

Compassion is not something we should seek to compartmentalise in our lives but instead we can make it relevant throughout our existence be it at work, with friends or with our family.

Our discussion will encompass a number of broad elements of self compassion and compassion for others; the challenges facing our compassion; and the benefits when we succeed. Our work will culminate in each individual setting their own goal for compassion and formulating a plan for making the goal a reality.


WORKSHOP ITINERARY

10.00am-12.45pm (including coffee/tea break)

  • Understanding the nature of guilt and shame
  • Active Listening
  • Understanding
  • Judgement
  • Forgiveness

13.00pm
Lunch

2.00pm
Afternoon walk with the rest of the retreat party

3.00-5.00pm

  • The roll of meditation
  • Setting a goal for compassion
  • Making the plan happen


Alan Keyse is a fully qualified Business and Life Coach who now applies his 30 years of experience as a sales executive to coaching Emotional Intelligence to business leaders, executives, managers and their staff either in one-to-one sessions, in groups, or speaking to larger audiences. 

Alan Keyse